Answering a question about love

Lets play a game, send me a question and I will write an answer next blog.


The only question that I can think about is regarding love… and it’s haunting me, so I’ll ask this one: How does your spirit truly like to pick and be with a partner? The spirit can be confused in love by chords, karma to past lives, abusive cycles etc.

People think past life lover ties are so romantic and “deep” love, or another pull is an abusive relationship that fails over and over again. But, in our work, we would remove the ties and chords and false pulls, leaving clarity. The clarity might be that you don’t want to be with that person anymore, and the “love” isn’t there anymore, because it never really was, or you realized you were caught up in the wrong things. When magic is working, it’s left up to the spirits and what would be good for my spirit or his spirit. So, what would that be?


What is love? When we are in a relationship, the relationship serves a purpose. It’s purpose is to give you what you are needing to heal and develop in yourself. Like if you have to develop self trust, you can develop this self trust from being in a relationship that teaches you how to trust in yourself. This is love, when two people become a catalyst for health and growth.

The problem is, and there is a problem, people mistake giving their partner what they themselves need, hoping they will receive it back in return. This creates a payment system in the relationship. I gave you this, you owe me that. This is a problem for several reasons. 1. If you are giving your partner what you really need, you are unable to give them what they really need. 2. If you are giving your partner what you really need, you are not receiving what you need from them.

For example, Sally want’s to be more passionate with her lover, because Sally has freed up her passions through healing and inner work. She really needs to express her newfound freedom in love making. She begins to contemplate how to get her partner to be more fiery himself. She wants him to be a hot lover, sexy, dominant, and wanting her. She focuses on changing him and is disappointed that he hasn’t yet.

This is unfair. The guy loves her. He is used to treating her gently because this is what she needed from him prior to her healing work. She is trying to change him because she changed. Love is built through exploring ways of relaying, receiving and giving needs. This is the work of being in a relationship.

How magic fits in. Well, this is where it gets fun. Magic creates a way to have Sally’s man begin to desire the change. For example, magic can help Sally’s partner let go of how she was and to wake up to how she is now. This will give Sally more ability to express and receive her needs from him.

Good magic always moves people closer to their own truth. The magic wakes up his sleeping passion, helping him become more of who he really is. This is fun, magic can help the healing process. Healing does not have to be deep and hard. It actually can happen through enhancing the potential. Then it is up to him how he wants to respond. Magic communicates with the spirit directly to support love, loving, love making, love romancing and love seeking.

This is how it works. Healing plus magic equals actualization. Work it! Use your gift from the sprits of the life you are given to heal yourself, and use the gift of the spirits you are given to actualize your healing.

To work this magic on your own, take something you have been working on and ready to move into reality. Paint it, draw it, or create a symbol representing your need.
Spirit communicates through art and ritual. Place your art next to a candle and a glass of water. Ask your spirits to bring you what you have painted. Do this every day for three days. When you are done, toss the water outside. Take your painting and put it away until you receive what you asked for. When you do, gift your spirits something, like flowers or a sweet offering. You can hang up your painting if you want to remind you that you truly are co-creating your life.


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Developing a Stronger Connection

Three things you can do to develop your connection.

1. Clear your space

Spirits are a frequency; they radiate a field and will attract to like energy fields. Because spirit is our access to divine nature, and nature’s access to us is spirit, it is essential you know, connect with, and hear the guidance of your spirits. Yes, you are not alone and can never be. You are made up of spirit and spirit is also made up of you. We are connected. Much like an energy circuit, the spirits’ purpose is served when they reach a destination and plug into a device to serve the device. Imagine an energy power plant. It is huge and if you tried to touch it you would die. So, the energy is filtered into main wires for distribution all over the city. These main wires are directed into smaller wires that go throughout your home and even smaller wires that make a wall jack. You can plug a device into the wall jack and receive an electrical current just for you to use.

The unlimited power drawn into the power plant is the divine nature. The power plant is raw nature energetic or pure spirit. The main wires are mysteries and allies, the energy current. The smaller wires are spirits and guides who serve the current in teeny tiny ways which can be utilized. These spirits and guides are able to transmit this infinite life force to you in a safe and useful way. They create the energy of a space.

Trying to plug directly into the power plant is a bad idea. This is one of the mistakes people on spiritual exploration often try to do. Your guides and spirits help communicate the great spirit’s nature to you in little ways that can heal and balance the mind, body and even soul. This process of creating a connection takes time and dedication.

Begin with creating a clear sacred space for these spirits and guides to find you. Light a candle to build heat to attract the guide, place items next to your candle that are sacred to you and charge the items by heating them up over the flame. Sage or incense the room to create an avenue for the spirits to see you. Wash the floor with herbs to honor the guides. Throw salt to wick up old stale energy. REMOVE CLUTTER from your home! Negativity resides in clutter. Clear, clear, clear.

2. Raise the energy

A clear space is cool but will fill back up with commonality immediately unless the energy is elevated. Elevating the energy will help give you a place of calmness and sanctuary to be in while connecting. This is important for clearing your mind, resting your heart and relaxing your body. If you have heard this before, so what, try it again. This time do it right. Ring bells from the floor up to elevate the sound frequency. Sound is energy, you must move sound up to elevate the space. Bring water in. Water conducts electricity and neutralizes the electromagnetic field. Either sprinkle sacred water, pour a bowl of water or use a fountain. Regular water will get mucked up with energy fast; it must be spiritually purified for the elevating to work.

Lastly pray out loud to bring in life force to elevate the space. If you know how to bring in the life force, then do. If not, prayer is a good start. Prayer must be out loud; the spirit needs to hear your sound frequency. Spirit does not like begging, pleading or pussyfooting. Be straight, direct, command!

3. Contain the space

Now you can stabilize the work you have done by containing the space. Do this by creating a field. Here are a couple of good ways to do so. Place four items, one in each corner of the room, to hold the energy. These items will need to be cleared from time to time by being soaked in salt water. I personally like creating a circle encompassing the space. This can be done with salt, herbs, cornmeal or any other grain, mineral or herb. Find something you have an affinity for. These items have been used for thousands of years and they work! Every time you clear and elevate the energy, it builds on the previous work you have done. Now, you are ready to bring the spirit to you. Listen, breath, relax, and focus on feeling the energy current.

If you notice this does not work for you, you probably have a negative spirit or entity sabotaging the work. To clear this requires the gifted and trained hand of a spirit worker. Do not be surprised by the number of untrained and non-initiated people advertising themselves as “spirit workers.” Utilize caution when hiring someone to help you. Find a person who gives you a bit of the heebee-geebeez, but who also seems sweet and kind. This means they know something you do not and it is hidden. That is a good sign. Spirit work is not all light and fluffy. There is a reason the mysteries, for thousand of years, where kept hidden and safe in temples away from manipulators and ego dwellers.

Clear your space, raise the energy and contain the space.These three things will enhance your connection with spirit.

Many blessings!

Priestess Shoshana Des Chenes